First let me start off by saying that YES! the wedding was the best day of my life. It was beautiful, and perfect, and it went by so quickly and I was so happy.
We were both so happy. And we look back on it, and on the pictures and we have nothing but fond memories. The stress melted away that day, and what a relief it was.Secondly, I will tell you that during our 20 month engagement I cried a lot. My father and I barely spoke. I had very frequent panic attacks. I gained a bunch of weight.
It was, to date, the most stressful time in my life.
My father paid for the majority of our wedding. My father is a planner. My father is a type-A. I really look up to my father. We were not friends during the wedding planning. Our relationship turned tepid, then went to mostly non-existent other than when he absolutely HAD to talk about a menu, the DJ, an upcoming walk through of the venue. We were frenemies. Since this is a pretty open blog, I think I can honestly say that my dad and I were not very fond of each other during planning my wedding. Me, because my dad took over a LOT of it. My dad because, well I'm not sure why, but maybe it was because I'm his only daughter. Maybe it was because he resented the fact that I couldn't contribute much and I was married at the tender age of 23?
I am by NO MEANS saying that if a parent contributes to your wedding then you are going to have a shit-tastic time planning but, I am suggesting that you merely TAKE THE CHECK. If your parents offer to pay for your lovely day, or even pay for a portion of your lovely day then get a hard number together and have them write you a check. This way you can have a say as to where the money goes. Be it the flowers, the cake, or the band. We did the write-checks-as-you-go method and it was a disaster. We ended up way over budget (I think, I still haven't seen the final number and I probably never will).
Lesson of the day: Take a check, but keep your parents involved.
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